I wish that there was a socially acceptable way to say, “I’m having a bad mental health day and need you to pay attention to me,” without alienating everyone.
or: “I’m having a bad mental health day and need to be on my own for a while so please don’t be mad if I cancel our plans on short notice.”
Today was the day I decided to cut all my hair off. After 5 years of growing it out and playing it safe underneath my huge mane of curls, I am freed from the beast and rocking the new and improved me. Let me just tell you… I’ve been wanting to do something drastically different to my hair for years! I’ve had the same look for the past 5 years and have been ready for a change for the last 3 years but never had the confidence or courage to do so. Today, I built up all the confidence and courage I had and walked into that hair salon so ready and excited for this change. Change can be so good. So empowering and so healthy. Even if it’s as little as just a haircut. I feel great. I feel like this is just part of the process of continuing to find myself. A couple of years ago I would’ve never fathomed cutting off my curls and rocking a short-do. Had I known it was going to look like this, I would’ve done it years ago! I absolutely love it. I’m so happy with my new look. I haven’t stopped looking in the mirror. But most importantly, I am beyond proud of myself for following through and having enough self-confidence to try something new. It certainly wasn’t easy. I’ve spent the last month or so contemplating on this… Kept going back and forth. I was so indecisive but more so scared that society wouldn’t accept me. That all the men that I’ve known to be attracted to me wouldn’t be anymore. That all my girlfriends would stop wanting to go out with me because I was no longer cute enough. Honestly, none of that matters now. I could care less about what others have to say about my hair. I walked out of that salon feeling like a new woman. I feel great. I feel empowered. I feel free. I don’t need a bunch of hair to make me beautiful. Hair or no hair, beauty resides on the inside and that’s truly why I went and got this cut… To prove a point. That no matter how long or short your hair is, what color your eyes are, or what size boobs you have, that does not define your beauty. I feel beautiful not because of the haircut, but because I know just how much confidence I have within myself. This haircut discovered my self-confidence and embraced my inner beauty. It’s given me a new perspective on life and people. It’s made me a better person.
I used to be so against change. Today I welcome it with open arms. Change can be so healthy for the soul. The saying “out with the old, in with the new” has certainly been my motto in life these past few months, in all aspects. I am continuing to change and grow and discover. I love who I’m becoming. I love what I’m finding. I’m learning more and more about myself as the days go on. I encourage you all to make some positive changes in your life. Whether that be changing your hairstyle or changing your friends. Sometimes we just have to take those types of risks in life… It’s all a learning experience.
"You can be a businesswoman, a mother, an artist, and a feminist – whatever you want to be – and still be a sexual being. It’s not mutually exclusive."
"Feeling lonely is not about how many friends you have; it’s about feeling disconnected from the rest of the world."
"I have to remind myself sometimes that even when I feel like I don’t matter, I do. We get so blinded by other people’s light that we forget to enjoy our own. Your stars are just as bright, important and lovely. We are all flawed. We are all trying. We all have work to do. Remember your worth and acknowledge your hard work thus far."